Do You Know This Player?


My name is Pride, I am a cheater.

I cheat you of your God-given destiny…

because you demand your own way.

I cheat you of contentment…

because you “deserve better than this.”

I cheat you of knowledge…because you already know it all!

I cheat you of healing…

because you’re too full of me to forgive.

I cheat you of holiness…

because you refuse to admit when you are wrong.

I cheat you of vision…

because you would rather look in the mirror than out a window.

I cheat you of friendship…

because you would rather look in the mirror than out the window.

I cheat you of genuine friendship…

because no one is going to get to know the real you.

I cheat you of love… because real romance demands sacrifice.

I cheat you of greatness in heaven…

because you refuse to wash another’s feet on earth.

I cheat you of God’s glory…

because I convince you to seek your own.

My name is Pride! I am a cheater!

You like me because you always think I am looking out for you.

UNTRUE! I’m looking to make a fool of you!

God has so much for you… but don’t worry… because if you stick with me?

You will never know!


Tammi Kale

You bet your ass I jumped!! :-P

Yep! I jumped out of a perfectly good airplane and YEP! I loved it and I will do it again! It’s been a long time since I did it the last time, but it is one of those events in one’s life that marks time. It has been 27 years since the last time I went skydiving. My daughter was only 2 at the time and my hubby thought I would do it once and have it out of my system. Nope… I did it 3 times and would have kept doing it but he said he did not want to be the single dad of a toddler and asked me not to jump again, so I didn’t. 🙂

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I have always talked about it though and recommended it to a lot of people. When I turned 50, I started talking about going again and this time I had full support from hubby! Then a friend sent me a text last week and said she wanted to go! So naturally I made plans and we went!! What a wonderful experience! Better than any ride at Six Flags, Disney World or Universal!

The most common excuse I have heard is “I’m afraid of heights!” Ok, I get that. I’m not, but strange as it may sound, you never feel like you are falling.

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The hardest part is opening the door and jumping out without passing out. However, if you are strapped to a tandem pilot, you kind of have no choice. But once you are out, the feeling is incredible. Even with the ground 10,000 feet below, you never feel like you are falling. The wind is in your face at about 120 MPH which is the same sensation as being on the back of a motorcycle going 120 MPH until the shute opens.

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Even then, there is peacefulness as you are coming down. You are floating to the ground and then you just stand up. It really IS that simple!!!

I had no fear! I trusted my pilot and had complete confidence in his ability. My guy.. Marcus has about 7000 jumps under his belt and jumps on average 10 times a day. It is a wonderful feeling and I can’t wait to do it again!

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I KNOW!! I’m crazy!! But you know what???? This is what I will say at the end of my life!
“I, I did it all
I owned every second that this world could give
I saw so many places, the things that I did
With every broken bone, I swear I lived!”


I AM LEO! Hear me roar!



Today’s Observation:

“When all of the meek shall inherit the earth, where will all the Leos go?”

I wish I could remember where I read this. I would love to take credit for the line, but I can’t. It was in a book or magazine or something I have read over the years regarding Leos. I have known many Leos and well……..none of us can be accused of being meek!


It is my Astrology sign and to some degree I believe it is true and accurate because there are way too many similarities for me to not have SOME truth to it. Do I read my horoscope everyday and abide the rules of my life dependent on that? By no means….. But I do think the time of the year we are born might lend some faction to our personality. I have met many other Leos and we have a lot in common. Likewise with other signs, there are ones we are most compatible with for friends and partners. It is consistent for me to have friends with the same Astrological signs; ones who are most like-minded, with similar personality traits. There is a strange connection and chemistry. When you talk to couples or friends who get along really well, chances are very good they have compatible Astrological signs. And then if you have a conversation with people who seems to disagree a lot, they have a tendency to have incompatible signs. This is based on my personal observation. This is not always true of course, but it is the case more times than not.


Now… I do not believe you should base a relationship on whether or not you have compatible signs. It just seems to be the natural order of things to gravitate to the ones we are most attracted to. I think there is some truth to that old saying “Opposites Attract”. It is a metaphysical fact that you must have opposite polar ends for even a magnet to stick to one another. So the same must be true with human nature right? But there is something to be said about wanting someone in your life who compliments you, completes you and has the things in their life you want also. Even though they seem to be opposites, they have a great deal in common when it comes to cultural beliefs, morals, religion, hobbies and basic needs. Who wants to always be with someone they fight with? Although……. Nevermind, that is a subject for another day.


I, personally, gravitate to people who enrich my life. I like to learn and grow and experience new things and getting to know new people. I have a tendency to steer clear of those who suck life energy from me and who seem to be pessimistic a majority of the time. Most people do not want to be around someone who is negative ALL THE TIME! Ick……. If you are not helping that other person grow in some way, or you are not learning or adding something positive to your own life, find those who do. It will drain you! Find a way to feed yourself mentally, spiritually and physically. Yeah, yeah…for those who know me! Shut up! Do as I say, not as I do….OK?


I have had the privilege of knowing many people in several areas of the country. The North and South mostly since I have not actually lived in the West, but I have several friends who have migrated to Texas from the West Coast and I can discern, to some degree, what they encountered growing up in that region. I know couples who have successful marriages and ones who have struggled the entire time and usually end up in divorce for one reason or another. But for those who stay together (baring any unusual psychological issues) there are always a few reasons they make it and those reasons are consistent. The main one I hear is: “We just get along and we don’t fight very much and if we disagree on something, we talk about it” AHHH…that communication thing!!! OH that’s what it is??? Hmmmm….. who knew?


Well, experts have known for many generations and it has been written about, researched, talked about and has been the underlying problem in most relationships across the board. It isn’t just marriages, but ALL relationships, friendships, marriages, children/parenting, boss-employee, siblings…etc. If you want a good one, you must have trust and communication. You don’t always have to agree on things but learn to talk about what is on your mind and most of all learn to listen! This is a two-way street. Even if you may not like to hear what the other person says because it causes you pain. Consider the importance of that other person and whether or not you want them in your life. If they aren’t important enough to work on the relationship and communication…..then move on! Or learn to love them where they are and know you have been the best friend, co-worker, spouse, lover, mom, dad, sibling you are capable of being. Then find others to compliment your life. I have found, the more I give to someone, the less I focus on my needs and somehow my needs are met when I least expect it.


I think I need to qualify my statements with “We are talking about somewhat normal, average people” not ones who have serious psychological damage and need help because of abuse or trust issues.


That is a whole other matter and not one I am willing to delve into here. But having been that person, I can tell you from my experience you CAN learn to trust again and you CAN be healed and have great relationships with friends, your spouse, business partner, siblings and even children! Rock on…..


This is just my observation!


Question: What’s  your sign? *giggle*


What does N-O mean??

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Today’s Observation:

What part of NO do you not understand? The NNN or the OOO part??

No doesn’t REALLY mean no..right? It is the point with which you start to negotiate! Well, at least that is what some people think. These are the lawyers and successful negotiators out there. Our daughter being one of those people! LOL! But when she heard no (most of the time) she knew I meant it!! That child can argue with the best of them but a reasonable explanation was enough (again…most of the time…not always!!)

We have done a pretty good job raising our daughter (I think).  Sometimes it is hard to tell how much of what we say actually got through, but it does seem she listened some of the time. At 25, she is not where I thought she would be, but she is where she needs to be at the moment.  She is doing a pretty good job being a grown up now and I am proud of her:-) I see her applying things we have taught her to situations she finds herself in and it gives me some hope and clarity. I just wish she didn’t have to always learn the hard way. However, she does think for herself and her negotiation skills have been honed, so that is a plus!

Far be it for me to give parental advice but one thing we did learn was to be as consistent as possible and follow through on everything we said. We didn’t always do this and that is why I can tell you how important it is. Hind vision is always 20/20….. Do not make threats unless you intend to keep them and you should certainly always reward something when you say you will do that too. So if you “threaten” to spank a child when you get home, then you should spank them. If you tell them they will receive $5 for every A on their report card, then give it to them. And always mean NO when you say NO! And only say yes, when you mean yes……. There are few things in life that can cause as much insecurity as the inability to believe anything someone says. It is the foundation that teaches our children trust for the rest of their life.

Once upon a time when our daughter was about 8, she had a friend over. They had asked to do something and I can’t remember now what it was, but I had said no. I usually had to offer an explanation because a simple “because I said so” NEVER! EVER! worked with her! Not even when she was very small. That is what happens when you have an intelligent child who actually thinks for themselves. Simple answers simply do not work!

A short time later, I overhear this conversation:

“Did you ask your mom?” the friend said.

“Yes, I asked her” said the daughter.

“What did she say?”

“She said no”

“Go ask her again!”

“I’m not going to ask her again. She said no the first time and my mom doesn’t change her mind!”

I had to clap both hands over my mouth to keep from laughing out loud! I was so happy and even though this conversation happened 17 years ago I can hear it in my head as if it were yesterday.

Sometimes………..they really do listen! 🙂

Question: When was the last time you said exactly what you meant and meant what you said?? 

Can you help me “move a body?”

Today’s Observation:

“Could you help me move a body? “

How many friends do you have that you could call and ask this question? Truly…

Let me clarify. Most people have other people in their lives they consider friends. However, we do have all different level of friends and we can usually make that distinction based on how well we know others. How long have we known them, how did we meet, who do we have in common, WHAT do we have in common, where do they live, how far away…etc.

Here is my list of how “friends” line up in my life.

  1. Acquaintances: These are people from work or school or church that you know well enough to say Hi to, even smile at and have a brief conversation. “Hey, how are you?” (and mean it) “How is the family? Your Aunt Sue who is in the hospital, your daughter away at college, your dog who was sick last week?” You actually do care enough about them to want to know the answers to these questions. However, they may or may not be someone you would want to spend a good deal of time with or have over for dinner. We usually have quite a few of these in our lives if we are involved in a work place, church or go to school.
  2. Old friends: These are the people who are still in your life from school, childhood, the street you grew up on or maybe you knew in your first neighborhood when you got married. Somehow, you have managed to stay in touch over the years. You call each other on birthdays (or text now days), send Christmas cards, wedding and graduation invitations. You make a little more effort to see them if you are in the “neighborhood” but you could go months or even years without being together. You may have even been very close at one time, but no longer have much in common. But you care about them and as long as someone is making the effort, you stay in touch.
  3. Good friends: This can be someone you have met recently or someone you have known for a long time. There is more effort involved. You talk once a week, check on each other often if there are specific life events going on and you may be the one who goes to sit with them in the hospital or take care of their kids, pets and or house when they are out of town or need you. You can talk to them about some things but you still may not tell them anything real specific or pour your heart and soul out to them. You do spend time together and see each other as often as schedules permit.
  4. Very good friends: This is who you call when someone has had a baby, passed away, been in an accident or gotten ill. You know they will do most anything for you and pray for you and whatever situation you are in. They are there for you to lean on and will love you through your heartache and your happy moments. They are happy for you in good times and sad for you in hard times. However, you may keep certain intimate details away from them. And this person may not even live close by. But even if you go a long time without seeing each other or talking, when you do get on the phone or see one another, nothing has changed and you can pick up right where you left off as if it were a week ago.
  5. Best friends:

*This is the one you call to “MOVE A BODY!” For instance-your mother is in town visiting, she is an alcoholic and somehow you have managed to keep this burden from your child. Mom has come over and is passed out on the couch and your child is about to come home from school. This is not something you are equipped to deal with at the moment. You call your friend and have them come over to help you move your mother to the guest room while she sleeps it off. *

These are the ones you let in. There are usually only one or maybe two of these people in our lives. This is who you call when your marriage is falling apart, your daughter has gotten pregnant, your son is getting married, your pregnant @ 43 and totally freaked out! You got fired at work…your spouse got fired at work. Someone at church said some hurtful things and you are mad at them. You know whatever you tell them stays within the walls. There is no judgment  and no one saying “I don’t have time to talk to you. You want WHAT again? Didn’t you just do that last week? Why didn’t you listen to me the last time this happened?” You also know in your heart they will do anything for you and pray for you and whatever situation you are in. They are there for you to lean on and will love you through your heartache and your happy moments. They are happy for you in good times and sad for you in hard times. There is complete TRUST!

These are the most rare people and the hardest ones to hold on to if we ever find them. Because we, as humans, are very judgmental. We have a very difficult time letting people get close enough to hurt us. If we have been hurt enough times, we will usually keep others at a distance. We may not have a best friend…or maybe not one anymore because the last one hurt us.

Trust is a hard thing to find and hold on to. Some of us have been hurt so many times and so badly, we do not let anyone in because we just expect everyone to hurt us. When we have had our hearts, mind, bodies and spirit broken so savagely it is understandable why these walls get built. It is a human reaction for self preservation. Unfortunately the walls not only keep the bad stuff out, it keeps the good stuff out too. It is tough to heal from brokenness. It is hard to get better and put the proverbial pieces of our hearts back together when they have been smashed to smithereens……but it is possible to do. We have to ask for help. We have to trust again. We have to reach out to God and ask for healing. All of these things are hard to do. But it can be done. I am a living, breathing example and I have a friend I can call to “move a body!” 🙂

 So my question today: Who do YOU call to “move a body?”

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