Do You Know This Player?


My name is Pride, I am a cheater.

I cheat you of your God-given destiny…

because you demand your own way.

I cheat you of contentment…

because you “deserve better than this.”

I cheat you of knowledge…because you already know it all!

I cheat you of healing…

because you’re too full of me to forgive.

I cheat you of holiness…

because you refuse to admit when you are wrong.

I cheat you of vision…

because you would rather look in the mirror than out a window.

I cheat you of friendship…

because you would rather look in the mirror than out the window.

I cheat you of genuine friendship…

because no one is going to get to know the real you.

I cheat you of love… because real romance demands sacrifice.

I cheat you of greatness in heaven…

because you refuse to wash another’s feet on earth.

I cheat you of God’s glory…

because I convince you to seek your own.

My name is Pride! I am a cheater!

You like me because you always think I am looking out for you.

UNTRUE! I’m looking to make a fool of you!

God has so much for you… but don’t worry… because if you stick with me?

You will never know!


Tammi Kale

WWW Wednesdays (June 25)


To play along, just answer the following three (3) questions…
• What are you currently reading?
• What did you recently finish reading?
• What do you think you’ll read next?


The Silkworm
I am currently reading The Silkworm by Robert Galbraith aka JK Rowling. It is the second book in her series with a detective known as Cormoron Strike. I really enjoyed the first one The Cuckoo’s Calling. Completely different than her Harry Potter series but entertaining.

The Unlikely Spy
I just finished reading The Unlikely Spy by Daniel Silva. It was about espionage during WWII and D-Day at Normandy. Well written and very intriguing. I have never read anything by him before but I am going to start his Gabriel Allon series soon.

Love in the Time of CholeraI believe the next book I will read will be Love in the Time of Cholera by Gabriel García Márquez. I recently read an awesome review and thought it would be a great book to increase my repertoire of genre.

My contribution to Should Be Reading WWW Wednesdays 🙂

Resolutions, new beginnings, start over, try again……?

Today’s Observation :

It’s that time of year again kids! You know….Resolutions, new beginnings, start over, try again……? I don’t believe in resolutions personally. Mainly because they never seem to work out for me. Why not make positive changes to your life year round? Why wait until Jan 1?

I spent the better part of 2013 (and 2014) making good changes for myself. Most have worked out, some have not. I have added to and taken away from my list. I have learned not to make unrealistic goals but challenge myself to be better in some new way. I stay more focused and show more kindness but I have learned to use boundaries and I am way better at using the N O word. I read more and continue to challenge my brain and be as authentic as possible. The problem with my new changes is some of the people who were here in Jan 2013 (and 2014) are no longer a part of my life. That makes me sad in some ways but I have added more friends to my circle that fill in the gaps to some degree and have a much better perspective than the drama queens and kings who were there before.

I have learned things about myself that were hard to adjust to but overall gave me a greater understanding of why I do the things I do. I have learned to cut myself some slack. This was a huge challenge to say the least because I have always been so hard on myself, which in turn makes me hard on those around me. For this I greatly apologize…..

I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but I strive for improvement and relax in what I have accomplished without beating myself up for not getting one more thing done. It does help to have support from the ones around me who love me and care for me in spite of my flaws.

I still struggle with trust. This is a bit ironic because there are so many in my circle of influence who trust me. But I still keep some of my feelings and inner thoughts to myself. I feel like a fraud sometimes. My wonderful therapists over the years have chastised me for this. But it is a reality of mine. I feel like I have everyone fooled into thinking I am this awesome person but if they really knew the “real” me, they wouldn’t like me very much…much less think I was awesome! You have probably seen the sign that says “If they knew what I was thinking, I would be in a mental ward!” Truly! Aren’t you glad people can’t actually read your mind?? We all have impure thoughts and think about things we shouldn’t and laugh at things that are inappropriate. Thank goodness for grace……

What we feed our minds is important. Putting the best of the positive thoughts and influences in our minds will only give us the good things to dwell on. Thereby giving us positive things to say and be. You know the saying…Garbage in, garbage out! We are inundated with negativity in our everyday lives that cannot be helped. The news is a good example. I do not consciously watch the news anymore. If there is something important I need to know about, the information always finds me. If we put enough good and positive and Godly energy in our lives, thoughts and minds, it will eventually be a way of life and create positive energy to make us better people, parents and friends. We can do this by reading, watching good things on TV or by listening to music but I find surrounding myself with positive and Godly people along with those others things has the greatest influence on me.

So, instead of starting the new year with resolutions that will only be broken, try putting something positive in your life throughout the year and strive to make that an ongoing resolution to make yourself a better person 🙂
Brene' Brown

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I AM LEO! Hear me roar!



Today’s Observation:

“When all of the meek shall inherit the earth, where will all the Leos go?”

I wish I could remember where I read this. I would love to take credit for the line, but I can’t. It was in a book or magazine or something I have read over the years regarding Leos. I have known many Leos and well……..none of us can be accused of being meek!


It is my Astrology sign and to some degree I believe it is true and accurate because there are way too many similarities for me to not have SOME truth to it. Do I read my horoscope everyday and abide the rules of my life dependent on that? By no means….. But I do think the time of the year we are born might lend some faction to our personality. I have met many other Leos and we have a lot in common. Likewise with other signs, there are ones we are most compatible with for friends and partners. It is consistent for me to have friends with the same Astrological signs; ones who are most like-minded, with similar personality traits. There is a strange connection and chemistry. When you talk to couples or friends who get along really well, chances are very good they have compatible Astrological signs. And then if you have a conversation with people who seems to disagree a lot, they have a tendency to have incompatible signs. This is based on my personal observation. This is not always true of course, but it is the case more times than not.


Now… I do not believe you should base a relationship on whether or not you have compatible signs. It just seems to be the natural order of things to gravitate to the ones we are most attracted to. I think there is some truth to that old saying “Opposites Attract”. It is a metaphysical fact that you must have opposite polar ends for even a magnet to stick to one another. So the same must be true with human nature right? But there is something to be said about wanting someone in your life who compliments you, completes you and has the things in their life you want also. Even though they seem to be opposites, they have a great deal in common when it comes to cultural beliefs, morals, religion, hobbies and basic needs. Who wants to always be with someone they fight with? Although……. Nevermind, that is a subject for another day.


I, personally, gravitate to people who enrich my life. I like to learn and grow and experience new things and getting to know new people. I have a tendency to steer clear of those who suck life energy from me and who seem to be pessimistic a majority of the time. Most people do not want to be around someone who is negative ALL THE TIME! Ick……. If you are not helping that other person grow in some way, or you are not learning or adding something positive to your own life, find those who do. It will drain you! Find a way to feed yourself mentally, spiritually and physically. Yeah, yeah…for those who know me! Shut up! Do as I say, not as I do….OK?


I have had the privilege of knowing many people in several areas of the country. The North and South mostly since I have not actually lived in the West, but I have several friends who have migrated to Texas from the West Coast and I can discern, to some degree, what they encountered growing up in that region. I know couples who have successful marriages and ones who have struggled the entire time and usually end up in divorce for one reason or another. But for those who stay together (baring any unusual psychological issues) there are always a few reasons they make it and those reasons are consistent. The main one I hear is: “We just get along and we don’t fight very much and if we disagree on something, we talk about it” AHHH…that communication thing!!! OH that’s what it is??? Hmmmm….. who knew?


Well, experts have known for many generations and it has been written about, researched, talked about and has been the underlying problem in most relationships across the board. It isn’t just marriages, but ALL relationships, friendships, marriages, children/parenting, boss-employee, siblings…etc. If you want a good one, you must have trust and communication. You don’t always have to agree on things but learn to talk about what is on your mind and most of all learn to listen! This is a two-way street. Even if you may not like to hear what the other person says because it causes you pain. Consider the importance of that other person and whether or not you want them in your life. If they aren’t important enough to work on the relationship and communication…..then move on! Or learn to love them where they are and know you have been the best friend, co-worker, spouse, lover, mom, dad, sibling you are capable of being. Then find others to compliment your life. I have found, the more I give to someone, the less I focus on my needs and somehow my needs are met when I least expect it.


I think I need to qualify my statements with “We are talking about somewhat normal, average people” not ones who have serious psychological damage and need help because of abuse or trust issues.


That is a whole other matter and not one I am willing to delve into here. But having been that person, I can tell you from my experience you CAN learn to trust again and you CAN be healed and have great relationships with friends, your spouse, business partner, siblings and even children! Rock on…..


This is just my observation!


Question: What’s  your sign? *giggle*


Why Do I read?

Today’s Observation:

I have an overactive mind I suppose. That is what I have always been told. When I was 30 years old I was officially diagnosed with ADD. Although truth be told, it was probably ADHD when I was in school. I know! I know! There is a lot of controversy over what is called today. I often wonder what would have happened had we known what was “wrong” with me back then and I had the medication or at least the proper skills to deal with it. Maybe better grades?

It gets in my way today, but I have learned on my own how to get around my ADD with ability to make list and know my limitations. Staying on task has always been a challenge for me except when it comes to reading. I have always been able to sit for hours and read. Even as a young child I remember discovering Nancy Drew books and would ask for them for Christmas and birthdays or any other occasion when gifts are exchanged. I devoured them. If there were others I wanted, I saved my money and went to K-Mart and bought what I could afford. I eventually read all that were available when I discovered other books like The Hardy Boys and other classics until high school and college when specific reading became assignments. I would always do well in my English classes or with book reports because I had no problem reading the material unless I was bored. THEN…it was harder, but not impossible.

As an adult I have literally read hundreds of books now and I continue to read to enrich my thoughts, hone specific skills or just escape. My favorite book is still a good mystery and preferably something involving forensic science. Yes! I watch a lot of TV and I am totally addicted to NCIS and CSI. I like anything that is stimulating to the brain, makes me think and try to work something out. I love puzzles but I don’t do crosswords. Those are too hard….and we are not going to discuss Sudoku! LOL! Sometimes I like to veg out with a word find or word fill in. It keeps my brain working without having to work too hard….ha ha!

I do not usually read books AND see a movie. I do one or the other. I have a remarkable memory and if I read something before I see it, I know every change that has been made and what has been left out. The only time this has not been an issue is when I have gone several years between said book and movie. The first time I noticed this was reading a book by John Grisham and then going to see the movie a week later. Drove me crazy! It was still so fresh that I knew everything they had changed in the plot! I thought to myself “I will never do that again!” and I haven’t (on purpose). I have thoroughly enjoyed every Harry Potter movie for that very reason as well! 🙂

  Here are  just some of the authors I have enjoyed and highly recommend:books

Janet Conner (currently reading) Writing Down Your Soul

John Goff (Love Does)

John Grisham

Anne Perry (Monk Series)

Patricia Cornwell (Scarpetta)

David Baldacci (everything)

Catherine Coulter (FBI Series)

Kathy Reichs (Temperance Brennan)

Lee Child (Reacher)

John Sandford (everything)

Sherrilyn Kenyon (Dark Hunter and Nick Gautier)

Stephen King (fantasy not horror) On Writing is one of my favs

Brene’ Brown (everything and then some!)

Lara Adrian

Darynda Jones

 To name a few….. Series books are my favorite because the author has time to truly develop a character and they become your friend. I always hate to see a series end because it is like losing an old companion. There are many stand alone books though. So whether you like to read on a Kindle, Nook, iPad, or just an old fashioned bound covered book, I recommend finding one today and a corner to escape to! 🙂

 Question: What is YOUR favorite book? owl reading