Do You Know This Player?

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My name is Pride, I am a cheater.

I cheat you of your God-given destiny…

because you demand your own way.

I cheat you of contentment…

because you “deserve better than this.”

I cheat you of knowledge…because you already know it all!

I cheat you of healing…

because you’re too full of me to forgive.

I cheat you of holiness…

because you refuse to admit when you are wrong.

I cheat you of vision…

because you would rather look in the mirror than out a window.

I cheat you of friendship…

because you would rather look in the mirror than out the window.

I cheat you of genuine friendship…

because no one is going to get to know the real you.

I cheat you of love… because real romance demands sacrifice.

I cheat you of greatness in heaven…

because you refuse to wash another’s feet on earth.

I cheat you of God’s glory…

because I convince you to seek your own.

My name is Pride! I am a cheater!

You like me because you always think I am looking out for you.

UNTRUE! I’m looking to make a fool of you!

God has so much for you… but don’t worry… because if you stick with me?

You will never know!

 

Tammi Kale

My Mantra today….

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sometimes you don’t really know who your friends are until you have to reach out and they are truly there! I have so many wonderful people in my life with friends and family! God has blessed me beyond my wildest dreams!!
Thank you for helping me and mine through the last few weeks……
I couldn’t have done it without you! 🙂

Resolutions, new beginnings, start over, try again……?

Today’s Observation :

It’s that time of year again kids! You know….Resolutions, new beginnings, start over, try again……? I don’t believe in resolutions personally. Mainly because they never seem to work out for me. Why not make positive changes to your life year round? Why wait until Jan 1?

I spent the better part of 2013 (and 2014) making good changes for myself. Most have worked out, some have not. I have added to and taken away from my list. I have learned not to make unrealistic goals but challenge myself to be better in some new way. I stay more focused and show more kindness but I have learned to use boundaries and I am way better at using the N O word. I read more and continue to challenge my brain and be as authentic as possible. The problem with my new changes is some of the people who were here in Jan 2013 (and 2014) are no longer a part of my life. That makes me sad in some ways but I have added more friends to my circle that fill in the gaps to some degree and have a much better perspective than the drama queens and kings who were there before.

I have learned things about myself that were hard to adjust to but overall gave me a greater understanding of why I do the things I do. I have learned to cut myself some slack. This was a huge challenge to say the least because I have always been so hard on myself, which in turn makes me hard on those around me. For this I greatly apologize…..

I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but I strive for improvement and relax in what I have accomplished without beating myself up for not getting one more thing done. It does help to have support from the ones around me who love me and care for me in spite of my flaws.

I still struggle with trust. This is a bit ironic because there are so many in my circle of influence who trust me. But I still keep some of my feelings and inner thoughts to myself. I feel like a fraud sometimes. My wonderful therapists over the years have chastised me for this. But it is a reality of mine. I feel like I have everyone fooled into thinking I am this awesome person but if they really knew the “real” me, they wouldn’t like me very much…much less think I was awesome! You have probably seen the sign that says “If they knew what I was thinking, I would be in a mental ward!” Truly! Aren’t you glad people can’t actually read your mind?? We all have impure thoughts and think about things we shouldn’t and laugh at things that are inappropriate. Thank goodness for grace……

What we feed our minds is important. Putting the best of the positive thoughts and influences in our minds will only give us the good things to dwell on. Thereby giving us positive things to say and be. You know the saying…Garbage in, garbage out! We are inundated with negativity in our everyday lives that cannot be helped. The news is a good example. I do not consciously watch the news anymore. If there is something important I need to know about, the information always finds me. If we put enough good and positive and Godly energy in our lives, thoughts and minds, it will eventually be a way of life and create positive energy to make us better people, parents and friends. We can do this by reading, watching good things on TV or by listening to music but I find surrounding myself with positive and Godly people along with those others things has the greatest influence on me.

So, instead of starting the new year with resolutions that will only be broken, try putting something positive in your life throughout the year and strive to make that an ongoing resolution to make yourself a better person 🙂
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I AM LEO! Hear me roar!

 

 

Today’s Observation:

“When all of the meek shall inherit the earth, where will all the Leos go?”

I wish I could remember where I read this. I would love to take credit for the line, but I can’t. It was in a book or magazine or something I have read over the years regarding Leos. I have known many Leos and well……..none of us can be accused of being meek!

 

It is my Astrology sign and to some degree I believe it is true and accurate because there are way too many similarities for me to not have SOME truth to it. Do I read my horoscope everyday and abide the rules of my life dependent on that? By no means….. But I do think the time of the year we are born might lend some faction to our personality. I have met many other Leos and we have a lot in common. Likewise with other signs, there are ones we are most compatible with for friends and partners. It is consistent for me to have friends with the same Astrological signs; ones who are most like-minded, with similar personality traits. There is a strange connection and chemistry. When you talk to couples or friends who get along really well, chances are very good they have compatible Astrological signs. And then if you have a conversation with people who seems to disagree a lot, they have a tendency to have incompatible signs. This is based on my personal observation. This is not always true of course, but it is the case more times than not.

 

Now… I do not believe you should base a relationship on whether or not you have compatible signs. It just seems to be the natural order of things to gravitate to the ones we are most attracted to. I think there is some truth to that old saying “Opposites Attract”. It is a metaphysical fact that you must have opposite polar ends for even a magnet to stick to one another. So the same must be true with human nature right? But there is something to be said about wanting someone in your life who compliments you, completes you and has the things in their life you want also. Even though they seem to be opposites, they have a great deal in common when it comes to cultural beliefs, morals, religion, hobbies and basic needs. Who wants to always be with someone they fight with? Although……. Nevermind, that is a subject for another day.

 

I, personally, gravitate to people who enrich my life. I like to learn and grow and experience new things and getting to know new people. I have a tendency to steer clear of those who suck life energy from me and who seem to be pessimistic a majority of the time. Most people do not want to be around someone who is negative ALL THE TIME! Ick……. If you are not helping that other person grow in some way, or you are not learning or adding something positive to your own life, find those who do. It will drain you! Find a way to feed yourself mentally, spiritually and physically. Yeah, yeah…for those who know me! Shut up! Do as I say, not as I do….OK?

 

I have had the privilege of knowing many people in several areas of the country. The North and South mostly since I have not actually lived in the West, but I have several friends who have migrated to Texas from the West Coast and I can discern, to some degree, what they encountered growing up in that region. I know couples who have successful marriages and ones who have struggled the entire time and usually end up in divorce for one reason or another. But for those who stay together (baring any unusual psychological issues) there are always a few reasons they make it and those reasons are consistent. The main one I hear is: “We just get along and we don’t fight very much and if we disagree on something, we talk about it” AHHH…that communication thing!!! OH that’s what it is??? Hmmmm….. who knew?

 

Well, experts have known for many generations and it has been written about, researched, talked about and has been the underlying problem in most relationships across the board. It isn’t just marriages, but ALL relationships, friendships, marriages, children/parenting, boss-employee, siblings…etc. If you want a good one, you must have trust and communication. You don’t always have to agree on things but learn to talk about what is on your mind and most of all learn to listen! This is a two-way street. Even if you may not like to hear what the other person says because it causes you pain. Consider the importance of that other person and whether or not you want them in your life. If they aren’t important enough to work on the relationship and communication…..then move on! Or learn to love them where they are and know you have been the best friend, co-worker, spouse, lover, mom, dad, sibling you are capable of being. Then find others to compliment your life. I have found, the more I give to someone, the less I focus on my needs and somehow my needs are met when I least expect it.

 

I think I need to qualify my statements with “We are talking about somewhat normal, average people” not ones who have serious psychological damage and need help because of abuse or trust issues.

 

That is a whole other matter and not one I am willing to delve into here. But having been that person, I can tell you from my experience you CAN learn to trust again and you CAN be healed and have great relationships with friends, your spouse, business partner, siblings and even children! Rock on…..

 

This is just my observation!

 

Question: What’s  your sign? *giggle*

Leo

They Live up to their name!

Today’s Observation:

In the past week or so, I have cleansed my soul by crying…A LOT! It is very difficult to get over the loss of a pet. Some hurt more than others. We had a kitty that lived just shy of 16 years. He was an awesome cat! It hurt when he passed but nothing like now!

My husband grew up in a house of animals. I still can’t imagine what that must have been like. They did NOT live on a farm. They were in town…not “the city” but they had a house on a busy street right next door to other houses with lots of kids and parents who went to work every day. If I remember correctly….there were cats and dogs, a horse for a short time, snakes and turtles, hamsters and birds there was even a rabbit that was house broke and would bang on the door to be let out! Can YOU imagine?? A rabbit that ran around the house like a cat? It was a zoo! But apparently a very clean, well kept and organized zoo…that was what his mother insisted on.

I had…a dog! One dog…..her name was Princess and she was a collie. I loved her but she was kept outside and didn’t receive the amount of love that she should have 😦

We have had an animal of some kind since our daughter was 3. We got our first kitty (which was weird for me) when we were visiting my mother. I had never had a cat growing up. My grandmother had a cat for years and that was the only exposure I had to them. And her cats were not friendly or warm. Our kitty was named KK which was short for Krazy Kat. Here’s a hint: just like children, do not name something that is the opposite of what you want them to be! She absolutely lived up to her name. KK was my husband’s cat. Or rather, he was her human. She loved him and slept with him during the day when he worked nights. When that began to be a problem, my hubby would lock her out of the bedroom while he slept. Well, like any defiant child, she would promptly go into his office and pee on his chairs! No kidding! We had to throw the chairs away. There were two of them that were part of a sectional couch he had in his apartment before we were married. When she was two we gave her away the day before Thanksgiving. We could not have a destructive animal in the house.

Cat

Cat (Photo credit: @Doug88888)

That lasted until April. I left one day to go “run an errand”. When I returned, there was a kitten sitting on my shoulder. It was 8 weeks old and the cutest thing EVER! My husband could not believe that I went and bought another cat without discussing it with him. But I wanted another cat and I was afraid he would say no. THAT cat was Butterscotch and the one who lived to be almost 16 years old. He had nine lives…..A story for another day!

When we moved to Michigan our daughter decided Butterscotch needed a buddy. So we went to the humane society and got Sandy. He was 18 in May…sheesh! I think cats live forever! They were friends though and kept each other company until we moved to Missouri. That was when I decided to get a dog. Up to that point, I was not ready to put in the time it was going to take to have a dog the way we wanted. That was when we got out beautiful boy Nash…….

He came to our family during a very difficult time and was the bridge that mended a few gaps in relationships. I had decided to name him Nash Bridges after Don Johnson but then my husband suggested the rest of the name like the Jeopardy category called “Before and After” so he became Nash Bridges over Troubled Water. It fit perfectly because that was what he was! And he too lived up to his name…we had learned our lesson!

I miss him terribly and his bed still lies at my feet under my writing desk. I haven’t had the inclination to move it yet. Our tears have been many but we have awesome friends and support that have helped…..Thanks everyone! It means the world to me to know you guys understand how much we are hurting. Our other puppies Pookie and Parker are doing better. They are sad…..but acting a little more normal now. As for whether or not we will get another dog? Well……..God will have to take care of that one. If it is meant to be, he will provide what we need. My heart has grown a little bit bigger with all the watering 🙂

Question: What animals have you had that made you happy? If they are still around, give them a hug and pray for long happy lives…..that is all.

Nash Bridges

Nash Bridges

Bridge Over Troubled Water

…….Over Troubled Water

All dogs go to heaven :-)

July 5, 2013

Nash Bridges Over Troubled Water passed away peacefully this morning at 6:30AM. He joins our other beloved puppy Bailey  in the big Dog Park in heaven.

Our beautiful boy was such a wonderful dog and he is greatly missed. He was born on March 4, 2000 and a part of our family for 13 incredible years. Nash lived a long and abundant life full of adventure, chasing squirrels, dancing for his treats, and loved long walks. He went on extended trips all the way to Michigan and even visited another country making friends everywhere he went! There is a little bit of him in the states of Missouri, Kentucky and Texas where he has lived and played.

He loved to play with his brothers Parker and Pookie who also feel his absence. His favorite pastime was to sleep the days away under the desk  at mom’s feet while she wrote. He loved to have his tummy tickled and ears scratched on a daily (sometimes hourly) basis. Nash was such a pleasure to have and we wouldn’t trade one minute of our time with him.

What an incredible gift from God he was! Thank you Lord for the gift of Nash and the amazing memories he provided to our family. We will love him with all our heart until we take our long walks again! 🙂My beautiful boy