Or so it has been said many times by many people. This statement does hit home when a prom date has passed away and he was only 53 years old. On the same day his obit was in the paper, there was another one of a lady I knew who was only 57. Add to that a 24 year old, 32, 41, 27, 18 and 51… all in the paper in one day. Of course there was an assortment of 89, 101, 78 and 92 as well. When did 57 and 53 become “young people”? The day I turned 30 I think. As we get older, age has a different meaning.
Why do I read the obits? I used to ask my mother that exact same question when I was “young”. In fact I teased her about it. She would always say, “I know someone in there a lot of the time and it may be the only way I find out”. The sad part is, now I can say the exact same thing. I read my home town paper online every day. My father says he looks at the obits to make sure he isn’t in there! LOL! I am blessed to still have both of my parents alive and well 🙂
Since I am no longer on Facebook, I keep track of happenings and things going on with the local government, festivals and area schools by reading the paper. It is usually the only way I have to find out what is going on “at home”. People assume you will see it on Facebook or Twitter. Uhm….nope. And I refuse to reactivate my account on FB so I can keep up with current events. I figure if it is something important enough for me to know I will see it in the news or read it in the paper or someone will tell me. I care if someone I know has passed. If they are not a family member, I may not know any other way. (hmm…now where have I heard THAT before?) It kind of keeps me in the loop. But I also care deeply about things that may impact my family and friends. I also recognize this makes me unique. Most people don’t care anymore.
I like being able to send someone a card, make a call or send a text just to let them know I am aware of their pain OR to celebrate with them. Sometimes there are good things that happen and people just need to know someone has made a little extra (sincere) effort. I enjoy being that person. We get so busy in our daily lives it is easy to let others slip away. That “Out of sight, out of mind” kind of thing happens to all of us, including me! By no means do I remember everyone, but I try.
It is a fine line to walk….be there for others, but do not let yourself be consumed by THEIR lives. Protect your own psyche and stayed energized by surrounding yourself with positive people who can also feed you. The way to have friends is to BE a friend. If you want people to do things for you, sew that seed into someone else’s life. Always look for ways to serve someone else first. It will be paid back 10 fold. This is my journey right now….won’t you come with me? 🙂