Have you ever made something for someone? A blanket, a quilt, a piece of clothing, art work, painting, stuffed animal…..these are just some of the things I have done.
It seems the more you care about that person, the more you care about what you made or how well it turned out. Then you wonder if they will love it, care for it, appreciate it the same way. What we all need to learn is that it doesn’t matter. If they don’t, will it hurt our feelings? Will we think twice before we ever do it again? Probably….. but it really shouldn’t matter. Because that which you made was done with the love and care of your heart. You are ultimately the one who gets the reward. When their face lights up and they say thank you and the true appreciation is there for your time and effort, that is icing on the cake. But if they don’t……do not let it diminish what you did.
Sometimes in our lives, what we do……is no longer for the person we are doing it for. It is for us.
A great example is my (almost) 98 year old grandmother who is in a nursing home. If the good Lord is willing and the creeks don’t rise (she would say) it will be her 98th birthday on the 4th of July. She no longer knows who we are. This is my father’s mother and she doesn’t know who he is most of the time now. Her dementia has gotten much worse over the last 2 years. Up until she was 95 my MiMi lived by herself and took care of herself and could do more by 10:00am then I could do all day. She has lived a long life, raised 5 boys and a girl, has over 20 grandchildren, 12 great grandchildren and 6 great, great grandchildren. We no longer go to see her for her……..we go for us. Because it is the right thing to do. I know she no longer knows me and that’s ok. She knew me when it mattered. We have no way of knowing how much longer she will live. Her health is not really that bad, she is just “an old woman” she would say. Most of us would do well to have half the energy she still had at 95 when she was still living alone. I have fond memories of her and my warped sense of humor most definitely comes from her line!
I feel blessed every day I knew all of my grandparents. And my daughter has known hers…….
Question for today: How many grandparents have you known and loved and what is their influence in your life??